EP #1: Finding True Love in Unexpected Places: How We Met and Knew We Were Meant to Be

Welcome to the first episode of The IBVB Show - Freedom Talks Series! 🌍 

In this episode, we dive into our journey, starting with how we met in the most unexpected way (hello, Tinder!) and how that moment led to building a life of freedom, adventure, and love together. We discuss the importance of divine timing, breaking limiting beliefs, and living life on our terms. Plus, we share insights into how our different upbringings shaped our views on love, business, and partnership.

This episode was filmed in the beautiful Jardin d'ete Gelato and Dessert Cafe by Suan Paak, located in Chiang Mai, Thailand. 🍨

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Transcript

Welcome to a sacred place where we speak our truth, share our knowledge, and shatter limiting beliefs. We are your hosts, Vanessa and Isabel.

So I'm so excited. We're finally starting our first show together. Yes. Aren't you pumped? Yes, long time coming. I know that we've been wanting to do this for a very long time, but now the stars have aligned. The heavens have moved together. And now, it's all here. Yes. It's crazy that the current cafe that we're in Thailand, remember when we used to almost seven years ago, or seven years ago, we used to shoot videos in here.

All the time as we were starting our first business together here in Chiang Mai, Thailand. Isn't that crazy? It's crazy. I remember that little waterfall over there. Yeah, I remember how it all happened. Record our videos. We would call them DMSs. Yeah. Remember that? And digital marketing solutions.

That's right. And we would send them out to people that answered the survey. Yeah. Anyways, but we'll get into all that later on. Stay tuned. This is our first episode. And definitely not our last. We've been wanting to do this for a long time. And the reason why it has taken us this long. To do this is because I truly believe that we had to go through what we went through in order for us to have the courage to have the certainty that we have today and the time.

And the time, the time freedom, is a big thing. And I feel like what I love about us is we're, we always do things in divine timing. Like we go with the flow. If you ask us what's going to happen next year, we never, we don't know. We know, but we don't know. Like we know the broader picture, but I love how we don't put such specific plans in place and allow God to move in our lives, allow us to feel emotionally or move.

I know we actually made the decision to no more longterm contracts because the place that we have now in Fort Lauderdale, we only signed like a, was a nine month contract, something. Yeah. Nine months. Because we know 12 months is a lot to live in one place. Yes, and speaking of living, we want to ensure that this episode really shares with you guys who we are how we actually met, and understand more of the foundation of why it is that we're doing this.

Because it is. It may sound a little crazy when you hear the way that we live because of the simple understanding that We don't live in the traditional form. We do not follow what the mainstream, teaches or does or, we're not into that. And we are all about freedom. It says it on our shirts.

Isarat. In Thai. In Thai means freedom. And we want to make sure that is the message and the foundation that is being shared throughout and everything that we do moving forward. Yeah, sharing our experiences, how we live, the knowledge so that, both of us have a heart for the world, the collective.

In our human design, we have a lot of collective channels for those that know human design, but Yeah, that it's possible, and that if we get rid of the excuses, we can make whatever we want happen. We can do whatever we want, whenever we want. We just need to get rid of those limiting beliefs that we may have.

And there, there comes new ones in every possible, in every level. It may creep in, that's a limiting belief. We might not even be aware that it's a limiting belief. But we break it, and so how we met, it was a limiting belief that actually I had that I would meet you the way that I met you.

Indeed. So that was something that I had to break. We met on the good old Tinder app. Swiping, and I never thought that I would meet the love of my life in that way. I thought I would run into you. I thought it would be like a magical moment in real physical life, but one thing that I'm really proud of and I feel like why I attracted you, everything that I ever dreamed of.

In my soulmate, is because deep down I knew I deserved it. I never settled. I always believed it would happen. And I would never lower my standards to what I deserve. And the life that I desire to live and build with the person that I'm with, but I always knew that I wanted to be with someone and to be able to explore, experience, travel and love, like I'm able to do with you.

So thank you. That was so beautiful. Yeah. I hope y'all took notes because that was so good. You're a living example of what I,

And it's a remarkable thing to be able to look at your partner, your spouse, your person, and say, wow, they're real. I'm blessed to say that before I met you, I wrote you down. I wrote down every single detail that I wanted, that I expected, that I desired in a partner in, in whom I would call my best half, my other half, because naturally I'm a very independent person.

And to be honest with you, growing up, my parents divorced. So I wasn't really into the whole marriage thing. I'll be honest with you. But it wasn't until we got together that I realized true love is actually what makes people want to take that next step in marriage, because I take things very seriously.

I don't really play around with that, yeah, I feel like we're both can be very serious. And committed to whatever we do, we're very passionate, but then I feel like those that really know us and it's no we're really like, just have fun, we're really like, love to have fun and whatever we do.

And if it's not fun, then we're not doing it. Until we get hungry. Yeah. If there's no good food around, sorry, y'all, we're out. Yeah. Yeah, that's awesome. Yeah. So we met on Tinder. Okay. Just to dive into a little bit, how it was, we both didn't expect to do it that way. I was on very short time and it happened, I wasn't the type to ever go around dating, so like when I knew, and I knew when eventually we first met, I was very clear on what I wanted and the person I was going to be with for the rest of my life. And you like checked all those, Checkmarks, especially when we had to do the real test. Okay. Shortly we met and then three months later, we decided to let's go explore and book a flight to Asia.

Yeah. Three months after meeting. So we booked the flight and six months later on your birthday, January, 2017, We actually left to the one month tour that we had planned around Asia. So I remember I had a job serving bartending at, in Florida, Fort Lauderdale. And I was also in network marketing, network marketing company, like learning, growing, developing, all that awesome stuff. So I was really focused on business and entrepreneurship and freedom ultimately, cause that's what, Entrepreneurship allows for like to you to make your own choices to do what you want to do when you want to do eventually, so I was doing those two things and I remember first talking like texting once we first connected and you're like, I'm listening to a Marie Forleo podcast. And I was like, okay, she's listened to podcasts. And then I remember, I don't remember, but I saw you had a whiteboard or something in your room.

I don't know if it was a, like a FaceTime chat or something. Maybe that was down the line, but you were like writing your goals. You had goals. You had big dreams. You were like, and this is when I knew you were the one, right? You're like, but you were 20, I think 20 What were you, 26 or 28 when we met?

I go with the year, so 2016. We met in 2016. I was 26. You were 26, but you're like by the age of 30. And those of you that know Isabel, you know she can get intense with those things. By the age of 30, I'm going to have a net worth of 10 million. Yeah. And I was like, She's the one. Yeah. Let's go. Yeah. Yeah.

That's cool. Yeah, and I knew you were the one for me when, first of all, you showed up and you were real. You looked exactly like your photos and you're even better in person. Yeah. That to me was like awesome, but there's something that happens when you meet your person. And I knew when I picked up the phone before you picked me up and I heard your voice for the first time, I was like, Oh my God, this is it.

Yeah. Take me off this list. Like I'm now committed. I don't know what it is, but it's like something, and maybe there's some science behind this, which could be interesting. When you do find that person for you, your organs, your DNA, your blood, I don't know what it is, your chromosomes, they just vibrate differently.

They just glow on a different level. Because that was the day that changed my life forever. Wow. Me too. And I feel like there's also like an inner knowing. At least in my experience. Because I knew when I first met you. I remember going back to work and I was like, I just met my future wife.

Or my wife, I never said that before, those words out of my mouth. But I knew internally. And I think part of it is that you're also ready. You're clear. And everything just happens. Yeah. So definitely don't give up anyone who's listening in, and maybe you've been working on yourself, you've been searching and looking, I believe never settle, fall in love with yourself first, enjoy yourself, have fun.

But obviously at the same time, you may want to be with somebody for the rest of your life to experience with as well. So just never give up hope and maybe you have to move to a different environment, check out different places, check out different opportunities that you might not have thought, going back to how it originally was.

That was, God was like, you guys are going to meet this way, so like completely different than what we originally thought we would meet, because going back to environment, you were working at, Restaurant. You were working at with the personal development network marketing.

You went to a lot of events. I was just finishing up architecture school and I was working at an office and my life consisted of, going to a 9 to 5 and then, And after that I was okay, what do I do? What should I do? I didn't really know what to do. So I thought we would have met out in like a museum or maybe a library or something because that's exactly what I was doing, I thought that I was going to meet my person doing what I know how to do. God's this is my story. Okay, this is my plan, not yours. There will always be a little shake up in how things align. It may seem like it's not going anywhere. It may seem hello, and it could have been done by yesterday, but it's divine timing that always happens.

And when it did And when it does, it feels like it, that's exactly when it should have happened. That's beautiful. And I think like an important thing is also to, I feel, ensuring that your values that are important to you are, that you see in the other person that you're with. From early on, like those little things of you have big dreams, you love your family, So many different things that are like Czech, you love to travel, a lot of the little things you're into developing yourself into your growth, into business, into finances, and it really aligned into people.

You love people, so a lot of those things definitely align. And I feel like even till this day, we're going to talk about probably in the next episode, more of how we started our first business together, so six months later. We went to book the flight to Asia Yeah to travel we saved up just for that trip And I know in the next episode we'll dive into that good stuff you know for all of those entrepreneurs that are just starting or maybe want to get to know us a little bit better and you know See what's possible for them.

Maybe it will inspire different things and new things, but I love how we're constantly moving, traveling, exploring new things, seeing different things together. And it's so awesome. And you said something important there, you said the word together. So I know that there's a lot of couples out there, whether you're in the same sex love or, the traditional route.

I don't care what it is. Nor do I judge anyone. Okay. I was against, not against, but I didn't understand the dynamic of working together as a couple. I didn't understand the whole like, you and me together we go, and we do, and together we transform, and together we build. I didn't understand that, because then Growing up, like I, I saw my mom as the biggest the biggest influence on getting things done.

Because as I, as when I got into like middle school, I think that's when my parents got divorced. So unfortunately my, I didn't really get to build a solid relationship with my dad and understand where he was at in that life. Or in that time of his life now we're more stronger than ever and I really appreciate him for what he did and what he's done and who ha who he has become.

And because I saw my mom struggle, I saw my mom go through so much and overcome so much on her own. And with two kids growing up. Not saying that we were bad kids, at that age, you're not thinking about things. You're just, going with the flow. I thought that maybe there was one dominant person in the relationship that had to be the provider, the giver, the I'm gonna go at it, and I'm gonna go hunting all day, all night, so we can have fun.

Throw some good veggies on the table and, we were going to go in that route, but very clearly in the next episode, you will know and understand how it all came shattering down that was definitely not how you roll and my limiting the leaf. Going back to how we started this podcast is like my limit.

My limiting belief was thinking that was how it's going to be. That part of me was completely shattered. That was completely out of context. And most importantly, it's, we weren't going anywhere if we were thinking that way. Yeah. Yeah. Like when two people come together and they're meant to be together, we can move mountains.

Yeah. It's incredible. Yeah. It's powerful and it moves way even more faster, stronger and amazing. And I actually remember you in the very beginning when we met, we're I'm going to come home after work or like doing the job and then we're going to have dinner. Like we both are a separate, doing our separate thing and then come back to eat.

Because that was your example, it wasn't a combination. Whereas the example that I had in my parents was they started and grew a business together. So my mind was always like, Oh, tag team whereas my partner that we're going to build an empire with build something strong or whatever.

And that's what I knew that I actually wanted. And I actually need that. that, and so that is interesting that we also, our designs, as we learn human design, they're very different depending on what your design is and, and to that extent, but yeah, our examples, a lot of times create what we believe, and that's what it could be limiting.

It could be limiting, but it could also be Liberating. Liberating. Yeah. So we'll definitely dive into that in the next episode. So yeah. Welcome to the IBVB show where we are breaking, but limiting beliefs and just speaking truth, our truth. And hopefully we get to change your mind and hopefully

get you to some higher frequency.

Alright, see you in the next episode!